Dance Game, Part 3: Which dance style is best for you

In Part 1 I told you why picking up women in da club is a sub-par choice
In Part 2 I explained why you should even consider taking up partner dancing
Here in Part 3 I’m going to break down different styles that I personally know or am learning.
There are an infinite number of dance styles.  These are only the ones I know.  Take this information and extrapolate to your circumstances; the true essence of learning.



Salsa involves a fast pace beat that is fun to dance to. Often involves a lot of dips and fast foot work.  If you love the close holds and tight footwork, this dance is for you.  If you don’t speak Spanish, you’re at a slight disadvantage.  A lot of song and dance is based on lyrics just as much as the beat.  The beat drives the footwork, the lyrics drives the Connection.  You will have a hard time making a Connection if either of you are nonnative speakers without the pure ethereal rush of a good dance that comes with both of you being exceptional dancers.
Argentine Tango is new for me but it has an element of sultriness I’ve not experienced with other styles.  Argentine Tango is a very close dance (as will all Latins) but lacks a lot of rigid structure requirements.  Instead, it relies on both of you doing your part and letting your partner do theirs.  You don’t have to be on time, your frame can be lacking, the steps all revolve around 8 beats.  With that said, it still looks darn sexy ().
If you are a new dancer, this appeals for a easy learn.  I would caution against making it your first, however, if you intend to learn more than one due to the lack of structure. By picking up a more stringent style your first learning curve will be harder but you will not have bad habits ingrained into your muscle memory thus making your second style just as hard to learn as your first.
Also, the scene is small.  It does not translate well into a lot of clubs or with women who aren’t familiar with ballroom styles as it does require her to know the dance.



Two Step is arguably the easiest dance to learn consisting of 3 steps: left, right, left – right, left, right; 3 steps in 2 beats.  It is a safe bet that most women in any country two step bar will be able to do it (even when drunk).  If you posses the ability to do anything fancy then your social status rises quickly.
I absolutely recommend trying two step as a first dance. It is low pressure to learn, and comes with a low expectation.  Many women will tolerate a much stronger grip and looser frame than any other dance I know.  The bar is that low.
There are numerous variations to this style so make sure you watch a few songs to discover how everyone is doing it at your scene.  There is no “best” way, but there are preferences.  My recommendation is learn what you prefer as a leader, and know how to lead a follow comfortable in any variation.  This takes practice.  Once it takes root, you can make even a choppy style incredible beautiful if you have Connection.  This couple has Connection.
Ballroom is the technically competent version of two step.  It requires a better concentration of the beat and an attention to the rolling step associated with a country ballroom song.
You can pick this up in a lesson or two and it will give you a level up on dancing skills at any bar.  If you can do it well, women are impressed and it gets you top 20% by default.  Do it well and you are in top 5%.
NOTE: This is not a Latin Ballroom or Vietnamese Waltz which is years of study.
Downside: I, personally, find it boring and don’t dance it much.



Lindy Hop is the old person’s dance everyone thinks about when they hear the phrase “swing dancing”.  It is technical and has an emphasis on a weighted connection (leaning back, counter balancing with your partner).  Most of the women here are old souls or very very hipster. There really is no in between. Jean skirts Church girl or blue hair pixie cut Bernie supporter.
This is a very technical dance as stated previously.  The music is very fast paced and has lots of aerial lifts.  You should be in good aerobic exercise to dance this competently.
I don’t recommend this scene to pick up women, though some may find it very enjoyable.  I got my introduction in Lindy but quickly transitioned away from it as I matured.  If you love the musicality, clothes, and dance style, go get ’em, Tiger.
East Coast Swing is the white man’s version of Lindy Hop.  ECS originated as a way for whites to dance to black music and it has stayed as a simplified version of Lindy Hop.  This dance is very bouncy and circular to the center of mass of the partnership.  It features less lifts and focuses on footwork compared to Lindy Hop.
Most Hoppers also do ECS and vice versa.  Same rules apply.
West Coast Swing is the modern, pop version of east coast swing.  Linear instead of circular, smoother and flat like ballroom instead of bouncy east coast.  This is a very scaleable dance.  You can learn it in an hour and never master it after a decade.
My personal favorite, Westies are borderline alcoholics and very free spirited.  Many tend to be Left leaning but most take care of themselves and aren’t too crazy.  Learn this dance if you want to make dancing a lifestyle or a major hobby.  You won’t be picking women up after a weekend (try 6 months) but once you become comfortable with your personal flair, it is like shooting fish in a barrel.  One dance congress I went to I had 3 women offer to sleep with me in one night.  I’m technically a novice but I own my flair and project a confidence into my style.
Zouk is the red headed step child of the Latin world and the Swing world.  Zouk combines the latin flair and music but adds a pop zest to the song.  This is a very popular vain in WCS that is growing every year.  Many who dance Salsa or Bachata will also dance Zouk as well.
Zouk is very sexy to watch, most women are too.  are attractive as well.  I have discovered it isn’t trivial to learn and the scene is still small though growing.  If you find a zouk scene consider yourself lucky and I wholly recommend taking advantage of it.  You will be ahead of the curve once it catches up.
There are hundreds of dance styles.  The ones above are outlined due to personal experience.  Break dancing is a thing as is dubstep, but I would argue they aren’t partner based and disqualified from a kino discussion to implement game.
Part 4 will address how to implement actual Game into your dancing without getting kicked out of the community.

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