Dance Game, Part 1: Why the club is a terrible place to meet women

The club is a terrible place to meet women.  There, I said it.  If you want to just pump and dump with risk of venerable disease, be my guest, even blind mice find cheese every once in a while.


    In this part 1 of the dance game series, I’m presenting an argument that meeting women in the club for long term relationships – plate or LTR – is not advisable. Let’s start with the obvious: partner dancing is not clubbing, clubbing is not partner dancing. The entire premise of this Dance Game series will be based on partner dancing and I hope to convince you why.  Step one is to convince you the opposite is counter productive, or, at least, not productive.
    In order to do this, let’s set the club scene typical to most men.  You are not going to be the G in the VIP zone with the bottle service and bodyguards.  Let’s face it, if you were that rich you’d just use hookers and be done with it. In reality, best case scenario is fit, nice clothes, handsome with social proof.  When you walk into any nightclub, the bouncer probably doesn’t know you. You pay the sex tax cover charge and cram for a beer soaked table in view of the amateur stripper poles.
    The club is dark and loud with strobe lights flashing.  You can barely tell if the girl twerking against you has a tramp stamp or a whale tale or if you’re about to black out from the $100 worth of alcohol you just bought for yourself and her (how else did you expect a strange woman to be dry riding your dick?).
    Your mind, assaulted by the lights and music, struggles to focus on this goddess you managed to woo. Your eyes focus and you see the black blur is a tramp stamp. Upon further excruciating inspection you discover this woman is 25 lbs. overweight, her belly hanging out from her crop top as her friends shout encouragement to her.
    She spins around, her vodka cranberry spilling onto your shirt. You can smell the alcohol on her breath. Glancing down, she sports a breast cancer tattoo on breast.  You catch her as she stumbles into your arms, her friends laugh hysterically. You get her upright and the hot one comes over and rushes her away.
    Empty handed, you buy a new drink and go back to the floor.  You bounce between groups and try to find one to fit in. You tire and go back to find a table.  You brood for a while, trying the Dark Triad vibe.  No dice.
    It’s 3 am and you pay out.  $126 plus tip.  Wandering back, drunk and stumbling, you bump into a cute woman.  After a brief conversation you both decide drunk tacos sounds nice and wander off together.  30 minutes later you’re getting a blow job by this woman you don’t know.  You turn her over and masturbate with her pussy.  You fall asleep.
    Later that morning you struggle to wake.  You barely remember anything, let alone the name of the ham next to you.  Easily 40 lbs over weight, you recoil in horror.  The smell of her snatch permeates the room.  You can’t find the condom. Sneaking out, you run to the clinic for tests and necessary shots.
    Congratulations, sir. You got laid for 140 bucks and narrowly missed the clap.
    Alternatively, you pay out you $126 and go home to your right hand.
    TL;DR: you spend a lot of time, money, and effort in the attempt to get your dick wet on activities that are risky, limited in scope, and not conducive to friendships; not to mention the low quality fruit.

Effort correlates to reward.  

    Grinding isn’t hard. Flailing around looking like an idiot isn’t hard.  How many times do you watch people dance in the club and go “wow! that is really neat!”.  My sample size of n=1 is about once every 100 times.
    How many times do you watch a girl dance in a club and go “wow! she is really hot!”.  My sample size of n=1 is about 25 times every night.
    Notice those are mutually exclusive.  Hot girls don’t have to dance well.  Beef jerky is thrown at cows, image being actually desirable.
    Backing up, put yourself back in the club where you were probably this past weekend and find that hot girl.  Who is she with?  Dollars to donuts she is either:
  1. with friends
  2. with an attractive guy
The fix is simple:
Step 1: be fit and attractive.
Step 2: be attractive to her.
    The crux of this entire argument is the realization that you are dancing to be attractive to her.  You flail around like an idiot because that is what everyone else is doing and you are measuring dicks to them.  Spoiler: you’re average or sub par just like those guys in the above picture.
    Get a proverbial penis stretcher and learn to dance.  The confidence and internal frame of knowing  you are the best dancer in the room is an instant advantage.
    We all know some size queens girls who filter men by height, length, and girth.  Same goes for dancing.  Get good enough, and your physical appearance is secondary to your ability to make her swoon.  More on this in Part 2.
    You stand there like a sack of meat and let a fat girl twerk against you for the Gram but that does not correlate to you getting laid.  Every woman twerks and they do it indiscriminately.  You can be the most AFC Soyboi in the club sporting weak legs, shorts, and flip flops and she’ll still twerk on you – for validation from her friends.
    Ditch the system. Swim against the current to fertile waters. Take the hard road for long term rewards.  Be sexy and know it.
    In Part 2 I’ll address the inverse of this argument on why you should even make the effort to learn to dance.

Sexual Strategy is Innate to Your Brain Chemistry

The common fallacy we commonly hear is that we use only 10% of our brain.  According to pop culture movies, just take PZT and you can access 100% of your potential and surpass anyone in anything.  In truth, the brain is incredibly plastic in that it is always changing.  This plasticity allows infants to learn a language intrinsically.  As we get older this plasticity lessens but never goes away.  When your finger gets touched, a section of your brain “lights up” with neuron activity.  Cut this finger off and the neighboring brain real estate will absorb this space for your other fingers.  Touch your other finger and that same space “lights up”. The brain is a use it-or-lose-it dog-eat-dog world.
How does this play into sexual strategy?  It reinforces red pill mantra that a red pill man needs to cut out porn.  Sexuality is innate and is measurable in even infants (this has since been refuted as faulty science since publication on the pretence of border-lined child abuse at the hands of Alfred Kinsey) . Let’s take a look at a wonderfully informative book called The Brain That Changes Itself by Norman Doidge, M.D. who spouts red pill truths in his chapter “Acquiring Tastes and Loves”.
“Sexual plasticity may seem to have reached its height in those who have had many different partners, learning to adapt to each new lover, but think of the plasticity required of the aging married couple with a good sex life. They looked very different when they met in their twenties than they do now in their sixties, yet their libidos adjust, so they remain attracted.”
If you have more partners you will develop more fetishes and become more kinky. You will never meet a virgin into BDSM.  This goes the other way too, find a girl with a low partner count and she is good LTR material because her brain will change to stay attracted to you sexually as long as you still appeal to her mentally.  The emotional and sexual are connected.  Lift, run dread, maintain frame.  A low body count doesn’t prevent branch swinging, but it makes it easier to manage any innate hypergamy.
“Love is too remarkably flexible, and its expression has changed through history.  Though we speak of romantic love as the most natural of sentiments, in fact the concentration of our adult hopes for intimacy, tenderness, and lust in one person until death do us part is not common in all societies and has only recently become widespread in our own.  For millennia most marriages were arranged by parents for practical reasons.”
Love is a social construct.  Love is fickle.  Hypergamy is innate.  “Modern” marriage based on true love is a blue pill ideology.  Previously we married based on needs.  Marry the girl, get land, she’ll learn to love you.  This is our natural progression.  This is why there was so much emphasis on virgins 1000 years ago.  That 0 partner count meant she is orders of magnitude more likely to stay faithful to you and manage your home and children while you were away fighting wars and killing bears.  Add in the fact that you are doing masculine activities just to survive in the cave man world and you have natural frame thanks to that socioeconomic patriarchy of physical dependence for survival.
Side note: Notice how the women’s rights movement didn’t take off until society was modernized and had removed our need to grow our own food.  They were no longer physically dependent on men for survival.
“[…] an adult’s ability to love intimately and sexually unfolds in stages, beginning in the infant’s first passionate attachments to its parents.  He [Freud] learned from his patients, and from observing children, that early childhood, not puberty, was the first critical period for sexuality and intimacy, and that children are capable of passionate, protosexual feelings – crushes, love feelings, and in some cases sexual excitement.
Traces of childhood sentiments in adult love and sexuality are detectable in everyday behaviors.  When adults in our culture have tender foreplay, or express their most intimate adoration, they often call each other “baby” or “babe.” They use terms of endearment that their mothers used with them as children…Even “talking dirty” shows traces of infantile sexual stages…Freud showed many sexual mysteries can be understood as critical-period fixations.  After Freud, we are no longer surprised that the girl who’s father left her as a child pursues unavailable men old enough to be her father.”
Translation: Stay away women with daddy issues. Dr. Doidge unknowingly spouts red pill truths in that last sentence. If a girl doesn’t have a strong father figure in her critical period of plastic development, she has no brain space for chemically bonding love.  She will fuck her way through the CC because she literally doesn’t know any better.  She doesn’t physically feel intimacy and is riding the CC in search of the enigmatic feeling she can never get.
“During the mid-to late 1990s, when the Internet was growing rapidly and pornography was exploding on it, I [Doidge] treated or assessed a number of men who all had essentially the same story.  Each had acquired a taste for a kind of pornography that, to a greater or lesser degree, troubled or even disgusted him, had a disturbing effect on the pattern of his sexual excitement, and ultimately affected his relationships and sexual potency…They reported increasing difficulty in being turned on by their actual sexual partners, spouses or girlfriends, though they still considered them objectively attractive.”
Porn creates the excretion of dopamine   This is your brain on drugs. No fap is extreme, but you, as a man, need to get off to stay healthy.  Less sex is tied to higher risk or prostate cancer.  If you must masturbate, do it in the shower with memories and no porn.  We love to jack off to porn because that dopamine rush is awesome and as your brain gets used to it, it demands that rush. It will hold your dick hostage and won’t let you get it up.  ED in young men is rising due to porn use.  Turn it off, go to a bar and find a girl with daddy issues if you must.  Just wrap it up.
Dopamine is awesome.  It is a neural reward transmitter. It gives us a surge of energy, exciting pleasure, and confidence.  This is why we get a runner’s high and why gym is lyfe.
“Each time the drug is used, more “delta Fos B” [brain protein produced by addictions] accumulates, until it throws a genetic switch, affecting which genes are turned on or off.  Flipping this switch causes changes that persist long after the drug is stopped, leading to irreversible damage to the brain’s dopamine system and rendering the animal far more prone to addiction.”
Porn literally changes your brain chemistry.  These effects translate to every aspect of your life.  You can’t get up in the morning because you are addicted to dopamine.  There is no pleasure in waking up at 4am to kick ass at the gym.  Your body hates it. You aren’t giving it any dopamine, you aren’t even neutral but actually experiencing a deprivation of pleasure.  The best thing you can do to fix your porn addiction is by going to the gym.  The brain is plastic so when you go to the gym and get a very small dose of dopamine, you are beginning to train your brain to changes itself and it’s map to reward the god of Iron instead the god of Pleasure.  After years of discipline, waking up at 4am for worship will no longer suck balls but be invigorating.
The plastic map of the brain can often cross connect.  The region of sensory for the foot is right next to that of our genitals. This cross wiring is why some people have extreme foot fetishes. Why some men prefer boobs to butt, etc.
The brain experiences plasticity primarily in adolescence.  This young age is when we are nurtured by our parents and first experience unconditional love.
“Romantic love triggers such a powerful emotion that we can reconfigure what we find attractive, even overcoming “objective” beauty.  “
As we grow up the nurturing love we feel as children is reinvigorated as adults.  This explains MILF fetishes with men who were abused by their mothers.  The brain was denied it in adolescence and is trying to fill that void later in life.
Cocaine acts by lowering our threshold in which pleasure centers will fire.  It doesn’t make us happy, but allows simply things to become euphoric. Chemical Love is the same way.  The same neural transmitters fire in both conditions.
“Recent fMRI scans of lovers looking at photos of their sweethearts show that a part of the brain with great concentrations of dopamine is activated; their brains looked like those of people on cocaine.”
A man falls in love with a woman and stops trying (working out, pursuing her, running dread, etc).  His pleasure centers are inundated, why try harder, right?  She becomes abusive because she didn’t sign on for a faggot fat ass. Beta bitch stays around trying to force those pleasure centers to fire, trying to get that original high.  Oneitis is literally a drug addiction.
“A tolerance can develop in happy lovers as they get used to each other.  Dopamine likes novelty. When monogamous mates develop a tolerance for each other and lose the romantic high they once had, the changes may be a sign… their plastic brains have so well adapted to each other that it’s harder for them to get the same buzz they once got from each other.”
This explains why couples in open marriages report higher than average feelings towards their relationships than monogamous couples.  Our brain wants variety and any married man or otherwise long-term relationship must continually foster that variety to keep forming new neural connections of love.  If you must get married, stimulate this by trying new things together, new clothes, and surprising each other.  The key is to not fall into a rut.  Date your wife.
Understanding how your brain works is the first step to learning how you can manipulate it to your advantage in life and the lives of others.  This mentality is applied copiously in fitness and nutrition, teaching the client what food does to your body is the first step in getting them to change their habits.  I hope the same can be seen here with sexuality and the brain.  More on this later.
Until Next Time,
-Han Larson
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How to Purge and Control the Media You Consume

pexels-photo-267350-1024x743I started this article with the intention of talking about a concept that quickly diverged into at least 3 topics.  As I expand upon my original premise I expect that to grow and hopefully a blog will spring forth!

Herein, I want to talk to you about the steps I’ve taken to reduce and control the media I consume.  I recently bought an actual TV after years of barely watching even Netflix on my laptop.  On a base level I regret it as that media consumption has crept into my life.  I’m taking steps to reduce my media consumption as a whole.  Here is how, line by line.


Instagram.  I don’t use it due to my belief that the filters and pure narcissism sharing nothing but pictures is unhealthy.  It allows people to live vicariously through others and become envious of their fake lives.  If you get motivated from looking at a woman’s butt pictures to go workout, great. If seeing that Lamborghini makes you hustle harder, more power to you.  That is not me.  With that said, @KyleTrouble had an excellent tweet on the usage of Instagram and I recommend you check it out.  I transcribed it here:

If you’re using it as a CRUTCH you’re probably going to be disappointed. If you’re using it as a replacement for swiping right on Tinder, it’s just more work and more bullshit to filter through. At least on Tinder they’re hand delivered. With IG you have to work to find.

If you have enough time in your day that you can actually spend hours and hours, filtering through hashtags and geos to find girls and then try to “DM slide” them… Guess what? You got too much time on your hand. (Women like men that have things going on for them…hint hint)

If you are just spending your whole day messaging girls, are you really getting anywhere? IG is probably best used as a TOOL to show off your INTERESTING life and to HOOK girls. If your whole life is DM-sliding, that’s not all that interesting, is it?

This means that if you meet a girl at a bar, or on the street, or heck, even on Tinder itself – that you can use Instagram as a way to instantly show major, major proof.

– Status

– Power

– Travel

– Money

– Body

All of these can be shown off in an authentic way.

You know that phrase, “A rich man doesn’t have to tell you he’s rich.” That’s what IG does. It allows you to show your entire life, in a matter of SECONDS, to a girl in your pipeline. She sees a snapshot of your life in 30 seconds. And you don’t even have to say a word.

That’s powerful, because it’s full-on social proof on your smartphone.  You don’t need a wingman to “DHV” you, or to work out clever ways of showing off your value without coming off as an arrogant ass. It’s all right there on your profile.

Of course, IG absolutely feeds into the narcissistic aspect of this. Girls are always going to want to upgrade to the best man they can get. Instagram makes hypergamy global…as @RationalMale points out.

In conclusion:

If you use Instagram but have never, or are unwilling, to actually talk to girls in person…delete the app ASAP because it probably won’t help you. You must UNDERSTAND WHY it can work to use it properly.

And there you have it: delete the app.  Social media exists to connect you with people but if that connection is not made in person it is fake, empty, and a waste of time.  I will refrain from provisioning advice directly related to this platform as I don’t use it.  I had Instagram for 1 month and got rid of it because of how toxic it was.  It provided me no value as a college student and ended up being just Instawhore bikini follows.  I had a moment of clarity, realized I was killing brain cells and purged everything.


Facebook is toxic with minimal value. Take a hard, objective look at your feed and ask yourself: does this bring me value? Do these friends enrich my life? Are these pages providing me with anything other than a sounding board of opinions or hate? I’m I following any of these pages just to piss myself off and feel important and enlightened by their stupidity?  Facebook use has been directly correlated to depression and anxiety.

I will attest to this myself.  I used to check Facebook 50+ times a day.  I have confirmation bias but 14 times a day seems very low to me based on personal experience and observation. Just like I did with Instagram I had a moment of clarity and have taken steps to purge Facebook from my life.

Step 1 to purging Facebook is to determine what you want from it.  Determine your mental point of origin and state of existence. The may require self-introspection. For me, it is locating local events to go to and dance conference dates across the country. I don’t particularly need it for the political memes, drama, baby pictures, graduation pictures, Marxist idiocy, or vacation updates.  I need it for those random date night ideas to spruce things up.  I need it to find roommates when I travel for dance events.  Both of these things do not require 14 checks per day.  Take a look into yourself and ask what value it brings you.  I can’t answer this questions for anyone but myself.

Step 2 is to define irrelevant friends.  After I looked inward and decided what I actually want from Facebook, I had to remove all things that I didn’t want.  Just as we encourage each other here to cut toxic people from our lives, do that with those “friends” that wouldn’t show up to see you in the hospital.  To me these are people I meet at conferences or conventions or who live a far distance from me across the country or world.  They add no immediate value to my life in day-to-day interactions.  If I got into a car accident they aren’t going to fly in and see me because they barely know me – perhaps we met once.  The exception is 2 who I text on the side, i.e. I interreact with them outside of social media.  We don’t just “like” each other’s pages but discuss business ventures and personal life in detail.  Go to Facebook and determine who is truly important to you and who you are important to. Blood is thicker than water but weird 2nd cousin Steve doesn’t make that list for me.  Be objective. Be ruthless.  Good rule of thumb are those friends who you haven’t spoken to in 6+ months or can’t remember last time you talked.

Step 3: Unfollow or unfriend all toxic, lackadaisical, and “irrelevant” friends.  I had a friend who I met through another.  He was an ardent communist/socialist/mentally ill person and kept posting stupid stuff.  I couldn’t resist and would point out the idiocy. Don’t do this.  It is a waste of time and I lost a person who was fine outside of politics.  Similarly, there are people I met at a bar dancing and we’ve never met up again.  He was a cool guy, but those goat pictures are clogging up my feed.  That single mom who complains all the time about no money? Gone. That fat guy who brags about how tall his truck is? Gone. That one friend always asking you to share their page? Gone.  You don’t have time for this. You are worth more to yourself than to allow berattion of their problems to enter your mental point of origin.

Step 4: Delete the app from your phone.  You will discover an increase in productivity after the initial withdrawal.  Trust me, it is for the better.  When I initially did this, I would reach for my phone out of habitual lulls at work.  Responding to a text? Close and try to check Facebook.  I made the excuse of not doing this for a while after hearing I can no longer auto login into new apps.  Don’t delete a certain cookie and you can.  In addition, the messenger app still works if people need to get into contact with you.  I also recommend turning off notifications. More on this later.

Step 5: (optional) Disable your account.  If you find yourself accessing the computer to check it more than 3x a day, post your hiatus and disable your account for 1 month.  As it currently stands, I log in every 3 to 5 days and the world hasn’t ended.  Mostly this is just clearing notifications and make sure I’m not tagged in anything exciting.  People mysteriously don’t seem to notice your presence missing. I guess we just aren’t as special as we all thought.

If these steps aren’t enough, just realize that Facebook encourages you to be a narcissist per this peer review article.

H1: Individuals with high narcissism scores will be correlated with a greater amount of Facebook activity.

H2: Individuals with high narcissism scores will use more self-promoting content on Facebook.

H3: Males with high narcissism scores will display descriptive self-promotion, while females with high narcissism scores will display superficial self-promotion.

H4: Individuals with low self-esteem will be correlated with a greater amount of Facebook activity.

H5: Individuals with low self-esteem scores will use more self-promoting content on Facebook.

These traits give myself a good understanding of why I dislike women who post a lot of content.  No matter how hot they are, I cannot find myself attracted to them.


Twitter is better than Facebook if you capitalize correctly.  Keep your following count ruthlessly under 100.  Determine what you are interested and want to learn and follow those people.  When you learn and stop providing value, reassess and decide who to drop and who to pick up.

For example, I’m interested in TRP, crypto, and drop shipping.  As I’ve picked up crypto followings I’ve learned new things.  Now a lot of those accounts provide me little value, a small fraction of these still reveal valuable insight.  As my drop shipping interests have grown, so has that following count to the proportion of the dropped crypto accounts.

I find that I like, personally, aphorisms and quality content. I use the aphorism to keep myself motivated and aligned with my end goals in life.  I leverage the content as intended.  Also, make sure you keep your content manageable – going back to limit who you follow.  If every person on your feed is linking to a 10k word article, you can’t read it all and the actual reading falls by the wayside.  Learn to tailor your feed to represent a manageable volume of content.  My feed is like a good steak.  Lean but juicy in quality, any fat adds flavor to the experience (trolling SoyBois©).

As big as my desire is to follow politics it is to rife with opinions and lacking factual content.  I don’t follow Cernovich because of how wide a net that casts.  I follow Trump for the entertainment but no new outlets or any other personalities.

I’ve been told you can follow porn stars on Twitter.  My only response to this is “why?”  Those thots don’t care about you and you’re jerking off to them? Tag me so I can get some tasty fat in my feed.

The key element to Twitter is to use it to your advantage, otherwise treat it like Facebook and remove it from your reach.


Texting/Email can be a time sink as well.  I highly recommend for my Android users to download Automateit.  The app lets you set times to mute your phone based on schedule or location and a host of other tricks. The paid version syncs with your calendar to mute anytime you have a meeting marked “busy”.  Not only is t handy for me to make sure my phone never goes off in class or a weekly meeting, it was the first step in reducing the constant ping in my life.

Then there is the obvious stuff. Disable notifications for everything then work backwards.  For some that is work emails, others text messages.  You no longer have Facebook on your phone so you’ll get no banners there.  I don’t receive email notifications. This is a personal choice as nobody dies if an email is missed.  If you are a lawyer, perhaps you should consider this a critical app.

I am on Android and use Nova Launcher and made email a full screen widget.  Nothing prompts me of incoming emails, but with a swipe I pass over my inbox and can easily check if anything important has come in.

Similarly, Snapchat is silent but has a screen notification.  I don’t feel a need to be told of every selfie but I don text off it.  Normal texting is audible plus banner popup.  Slack only pings if I’m mentioned.  Of my 98 apps on my phone, I have 3 that give me any sort of indication that I need to check my phone.  For everything else, it will be addressed when I get to it.  Twitter, Letgo, Meetup, Slack, Messenger, WSJ, Blockfolio, Mint, Groupon, Amazon, OpenTable, all are muted.  They are not important to me and can wait for when I am concerned about their existence.


TV snuck up on me.  I got a great offer for a big screen (to me) for 100 dollars and couldn’t pass it up.  I have noticed a steady increase in my TV consumption via Netflix and Amazon Prime throughout the period since buying it.  Most drastic step is to get rid of the TV I’ve proven no need for for survival. If I don’t get the June challenge done, that Netflix will get disabled and that will probably happen.

Up until then, my gf watches more TV than I do, having this incredible ability to watch TV and get work done.  I don’t possess that.  The steps I’ve taken have been increasing my reading and gym time; actively taking effort to not sit down and relax. Stagnation is Death. Literally. Unless she is begging me for alone time/cuddles. I no longer watch TV.

To benefit this, I changed my mindset about Netflix.  I took an objective look at the content and asked myself if I learned anything from it.  Resoundingly that answer was no.  Boom. In the effort to optimize my life, if the Netflix show is dumb or not remotely interesting or educational, I lose interest and don’t watch it.

This is a work in progress and I will keep you up do date.  I’ve also considered journaling my usage.


Good media is controlled media.  I do my best to control what propaganda I consume.  I read the Wall Street Journal every day.  I recommend it as a good middle of the road news publication.  There are liberal articles but they also publish unbiased ones as well.  Keep an eye out and ask yourself if you believe it.

Paul Joseph Watson on YouTube is highly recommended by myself for a hardline conservative personality on global events.  Check him out and decide for yourself.  Again, ask yourself if you believe it.

I don’t follow Info Wars but won’t go into the details on that one.  In the end, my good media is biased to the conservative leaning but I still leave access to read opposing opinions to keep myself sharp.  I believe this keeps me from blindly taking anything I hear from my “god source” as truth as many do on Info Wars or Huffington Post.


These are just tricks to use to optimize your everyday life.  The best thing is to make that decision to change and actively resist the desire to slow down. Force yourself to be restless.  In the end it all boils down to a change in your mental point of origin.  If you don’t want to change then you won’t change.  That simple. These tips outlined above won’t help a person who won’t help themselves.  All I can do is show you the door. It is you who must walk through it.

Until Next Time,


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