Effort correlates to reward.
- with friends
- with an attractive guy
I started this article with the intention of talking about a concept that quickly diverged into at least 3 topics. As I expand upon my original premise I expect that to grow and hopefully a blog will spring forth!
Herein, I want to talk to you about the steps I’ve taken to reduce and control the media I consume. I recently bought an actual TV after years of barely watching even Netflix on my laptop. On a base level I regret it as that media consumption has crept into my life. I’m taking steps to reduce my media consumption as a whole. Here is how, line by line.
Instagram. I don’t use it due to my belief that the filters and pure narcissism sharing nothing but pictures is unhealthy. It allows people to live vicariously through others and become envious of their fake lives. If you get motivated from looking at a woman’s butt pictures to go workout, great. If seeing that Lamborghini makes you hustle harder, more power to you. That is not me. With that said, @KyleTrouble had an excellent tweet on the usage of Instagram and I recommend you check it out. I transcribed it here:
If you’re using it as a CRUTCH you’re probably going to be disappointed. If you’re using it as a replacement for swiping right on Tinder, it’s just more work and more bullshit to filter through. At least on Tinder they’re hand delivered. With IG you have to work to find.
If you have enough time in your day that you can actually spend hours and hours, filtering through hashtags and geos to find girls and then try to “DM slide” them… Guess what? You got too much time on your hand. (Women like men that have things going on for them…hint hint)
If you are just spending your whole day messaging girls, are you really getting anywhere? IG is probably best used as a TOOL to show off your INTERESTING life and to HOOK girls. If your whole life is DM-sliding, that’s not all that interesting, is it?
This means that if you meet a girl at a bar, or on the street, or heck, even on Tinder itself – that you can use Instagram as a way to instantly show major, major proof.
All of these can be shown off in an authentic way.
You know that phrase, “A rich man doesn’t have to tell you he’s rich.” That’s what IG does. It allows you to show your entire life, in a matter of SECONDS, to a girl in your pipeline. She sees a snapshot of your life in 30 seconds. And you don’t even have to say a word.
That’s powerful, because it’s full-on social proof on your smartphone. You don’t need a wingman to “DHV” you, or to work out clever ways of showing off your value without coming off as an arrogant ass. It’s all right there on your profile.
Of course, IG absolutely feeds into the narcissistic aspect of this. Girls are always going to want to upgrade to the best man they can get. Instagram makes hypergamy global…as @RationalMale points out.
If you use Instagram but have never, or are unwilling, to actually talk to girls in person…delete the app ASAP because it probably won’t help you. You must UNDERSTAND WHY it can work to use it properly.
And there you have it: delete the app. Social media exists to connect you with people but if that connection is not made in person it is fake, empty, and a waste of time. I will refrain from provisioning advice directly related to this platform as I don’t use it. I had Instagram for 1 month and got rid of it because of how toxic it was. It provided me no value as a college student and ended up being just Instawhore bikini follows. I had a moment of clarity, realized I was killing brain cells and purged everything.
Facebook is toxic with minimal value. Take a hard, objective look at your feed and ask yourself: does this bring me value? Do these friends enrich my life? Are these pages providing me with anything other than a sounding board of opinions or hate? I’m I following any of these pages just to piss myself off and feel important and enlightened by their stupidity? Facebook use has been directly correlated to depression and anxiety.
I will attest to this myself. I used to check Facebook 50+ times a day. I have confirmation bias but 14 times a day seems very low to me based on personal experience and observation. Just like I did with Instagram I had a moment of clarity and have taken steps to purge Facebook from my life.
Step 1 to purging Facebook is to determine what you want from it. Determine your mental point of origin and state of existence. The may require self-introspection. For me, it is locating local events to go to and dance conference dates across the country. I don’t particularly need it for the political memes, drama, baby pictures, graduation pictures, Marxist idiocy, or vacation updates. I need it for those random date night ideas to spruce things up. I need it to find roommates when I travel for dance events. Both of these things do not require 14 checks per day. Take a look into yourself and ask what value it brings you. I can’t answer this questions for anyone but myself.
Step 2 is to define irrelevant friends. After I looked inward and decided what I actually want from Facebook, I had to remove all things that I didn’t want. Just as we encourage each other here to cut toxic people from our lives, do that with those “friends” that wouldn’t show up to see you in the hospital. To me these are people I meet at conferences or conventions or who live a far distance from me across the country or world. They add no immediate value to my life in day-to-day interactions. If I got into a car accident they aren’t going to fly in and see me because they barely know me – perhaps we met once. The exception is 2 who I text on the side, i.e. I interreact with them outside of social media. We don’t just “like” each other’s pages but discuss business ventures and personal life in detail. Go to Facebook and determine who is truly important to you and who you are important to. Blood is thicker than water but weird 2nd cousin Steve doesn’t make that list for me. Be objective. Be ruthless. Good rule of thumb are those friends who you haven’t spoken to in 6+ months or can’t remember last time you talked.
Step 3: Unfollow or unfriend all toxic, lackadaisical, and “irrelevant” friends. I had a friend who I met through another. He was an ardent communist/socialist/mentally ill person and kept posting stupid stuff. I couldn’t resist and would point out the idiocy. Don’t do this. It is a waste of time and I lost a person who was fine outside of politics. Similarly, there are people I met at a bar dancing and we’ve never met up again. He was a cool guy, but those goat pictures are clogging up my feed. That single mom who complains all the time about no money? Gone. That fat guy who brags about how tall his truck is? Gone. That one friend always asking you to share their page? Gone. You don’t have time for this. You are worth more to yourself than to allow berattion of their problems to enter your mental point of origin.
Step 4: Delete the app from your phone. You will discover an increase in productivity after the initial withdrawal. Trust me, it is for the better. When I initially did this, I would reach for my phone out of habitual lulls at work. Responding to a text? Close and try to check Facebook. I made the excuse of not doing this for a while after hearing I can no longer auto login into new apps. Don’t delete a certain cookie and you can. In addition, the messenger app still works if people need to get into contact with you. I also recommend turning off notifications. More on this later.
Step 5: (optional) Disable your account. If you find yourself accessing the computer to check it more than 3x a day, post your hiatus and disable your account for 1 month. As it currently stands, I log in every 3 to 5 days and the world hasn’t ended. Mostly this is just clearing notifications and make sure I’m not tagged in anything exciting. People mysteriously don’t seem to notice your presence missing. I guess we just aren’t as special as we all thought.
If these steps aren’t enough, just realize that Facebook encourages you to be a narcissist per this peer review article.
H1: Individuals with high narcissism scores will be correlated with a greater amount of Facebook activity.
H2: Individuals with high narcissism scores will use more self-promoting content on Facebook.
H3: Males with high narcissism scores will display descriptive self-promotion, while females with high narcissism scores will display superficial self-promotion.
H4: Individuals with low self-esteem will be correlated with a greater amount of Facebook activity.
H5: Individuals with low self-esteem scores will use more self-promoting content on Facebook.
These traits give myself a good understanding of why I dislike women who post a lot of content. No matter how hot they are, I cannot find myself attracted to them.
Twitter is better than Facebook if you capitalize correctly. Keep your following count ruthlessly under 100. Determine what you are interested and want to learn and follow those people. When you learn and stop providing value, reassess and decide who to drop and who to pick up.
For example, I’m interested in TRP, crypto, and drop shipping. As I’ve picked up crypto followings I’ve learned new things. Now a lot of those accounts provide me little value, a small fraction of these still reveal valuable insight. As my drop shipping interests have grown, so has that following count to the proportion of the dropped crypto accounts.
I find that I like, personally, aphorisms and quality content. I use the aphorism to keep myself motivated and aligned with my end goals in life. I leverage the content as intended. Also, make sure you keep your content manageable – going back to limit who you follow. If every person on your feed is linking to a 10k word article, you can’t read it all and the actual reading falls by the wayside. Learn to tailor your feed to represent a manageable volume of content. My feed is like a good steak. Lean but juicy in quality, any fat adds flavor to the experience (trolling SoyBois©).
As big as my desire is to follow politics it is to rife with opinions and lacking factual content. I don’t follow Cernovich because of how wide a net that casts. I follow Trump for the entertainment but no new outlets or any other personalities.
I’ve been told you can follow porn stars on Twitter. My only response to this is “why?” Those thots don’t care about you and you’re jerking off to them? Tag me so I can get some tasty fat in my feed.
The key element to Twitter is to use it to your advantage, otherwise treat it like Facebook and remove it from your reach.
Texting/Email can be a time sink as well. I highly recommend for my Android users to download Automateit. The app lets you set times to mute your phone based on schedule or location and a host of other tricks. The paid version syncs with your calendar to mute anytime you have a meeting marked “busy”. Not only is t handy for me to make sure my phone never goes off in class or a weekly meeting, it was the first step in reducing the constant ping in my life.
Then there is the obvious stuff. Disable notifications for everything then work backwards. For some that is work emails, others text messages. You no longer have Facebook on your phone so you’ll get no banners there. I don’t receive email notifications. This is a personal choice as nobody dies if an email is missed. If you are a lawyer, perhaps you should consider this a critical app.
I am on Android and use Nova Launcher and made email a full screen widget. Nothing prompts me of incoming emails, but with a swipe I pass over my inbox and can easily check if anything important has come in.
Similarly, Snapchat is silent but has a screen notification. I don’t feel a need to be told of every selfie but I don text off it. Normal texting is audible plus banner popup. Slack only pings if I’m mentioned. Of my 98 apps on my phone, I have 3 that give me any sort of indication that I need to check my phone. For everything else, it will be addressed when I get to it. Twitter, Letgo, Meetup, Slack, Messenger, WSJ, Blockfolio, Mint, Groupon, Amazon, OpenTable, all are muted. They are not important to me and can wait for when I am concerned about their existence.
TV snuck up on me. I got a great offer for a big screen (to me) for 100 dollars and couldn’t pass it up. I have noticed a steady increase in my TV consumption via Netflix and Amazon Prime throughout the period since buying it. Most drastic step is to get rid of the TV I’ve proven no need for for survival. If I don’t get the June challenge done, that Netflix will get disabled and that will probably happen.
Up until then, my gf watches more TV than I do, having this incredible ability to watch TV and get work done. I don’t possess that. The steps I’ve taken have been increasing my reading and gym time; actively taking effort to not sit down and relax. Stagnation is Death. Literally. Unless she is begging me for alone time/cuddles. I no longer watch TV.
To benefit this, I changed my mindset about Netflix. I took an objective look at the content and asked myself if I learned anything from it. Resoundingly that answer was no. Boom. In the effort to optimize my life, if the Netflix show is dumb or not remotely interesting or educational, I lose interest and don’t watch it.
This is a work in progress and I will keep you up do date. I’ve also considered journaling my usage.
Good media is controlled media. I do my best to control what propaganda I consume. I read the Wall Street Journal every day. I recommend it as a good middle of the road news publication. There are liberal articles but they also publish unbiased ones as well. Keep an eye out and ask yourself if you believe it.
Paul Joseph Watson on YouTube is highly recommended by myself for a hardline conservative personality on global events. Check him out and decide for yourself. Again, ask yourself if you believe it.
I don’t follow Info Wars but won’t go into the details on that one. In the end, my good media is biased to the conservative leaning but I still leave access to read opposing opinions to keep myself sharp. I believe this keeps me from blindly taking anything I hear from my “god source” as truth as many do on Info Wars or Huffington Post.
These are just tricks to use to optimize your everyday life. The best thing is to make that decision to change and actively resist the desire to slow down. Force yourself to be restless. In the end it all boils down to a change in your mental point of origin. If you don’t want to change then you won’t change. That simple. These tips outlined above won’t help a person who won’t help themselves. All I can do is show you the door. It is you who must walk through it.
Until Next Time,
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